Signs you may have control issues
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Signs you may have control issues

People with control issues are often described as being "controlling" or "abusive." They can be manipulative, pushy, bossy, or critical, but they usually also have a tendency to not listen to others. The same people who have no problem telling an expert or doctor, who spent years on their craft and profession, that they are wrong and don’t know what they’re talking about. These people are AKA Control Freaks.

Here are some signs that you may have control issues:

You don't listen well.

When someone speaks, do you really listen to them? Or are your mind wandering off to other topics? Your attention span is short, too. You might be quick to lose patience when you're in a rush, and it's hard for you to focus on one thing at a time.

You won't take risks.

Do you avoid situations where things might go wrong? Do you have problems 'going with the flow' in certain life situations? Life is full of risks — even the safest and secure jobs can be stressful or frustrating at times — and some people avoid them because they're afraid of the possibility of failure. For those who do decide to take risks, however, those who have control issues tend to take more risks than average. They're more likely to jump into situations that seem unsafe or risky than those who don't have such an issue (and such people tend to avoid such situations).

You don't show appreciation.

People with control issues often aren't very good at showing appreciation for others — they only see the faults and never the good work someone else does. This results in a lack of warmth and appreciation from their loved ones and co-workers. As a result, their relationships suffer and they themselves become isolated from others.

You're jealous of others' success.

If your partner becomes successful in some way — for example, if they get promoted or win some kind of award — you suddenly become jealous and resentful of them. You may even express your jealousy in such a way that makes your partner feel guilty about their achievements. Or you may be jealous of someone else for some reason — maybe your colleague scored a promotion or received a raise recently?


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